chew on this till we next meet again :)

Accept yourself. Love yourself. Respect yourself. This is good advice properly understood.

But why should I accept myself if I don't feel like it? What is the rock-solid, inescapable objective foundation for my self-love?

If it is only my feelings or perceptions or my psychologist's perceptoins, then my house of self-esteem is built on sand. When the rains come, my house of self-esteem will fall and it will be a cataclysmic fall.

But if my house is based on God's Word, then even when the rains of bad feelings and self-doubt come, my house of self-esteem will stand firm because it is built on the rock of God's unchanging truth, not my ever shifting feelings about myself.

Self-esteem is neccesary for all psychological health, and there is no absolutely sure basis for self-esteem other than the assurance of God's love for me.

- Knowing the God Who Loves You, Dr. Peter Kreeft -